Most fundamentally, recognise that happiness is a state of mind and not something which can be defined objectively. You can change your state of mind in many ways including the following suggestions.
Simple Ways to Improve Your Life
More importantly than anything else, live with a partner whom you love and respect and who feels the same about you.
Kiss and cuddle and compliment often and regularly buy unexpected little gifts.
If you have a son or a daughter. Tell them often how much you love and admire him/her and do anything to help him/her.
Have a cat or a dog and stroke them often.
Keep in close touch with relatives and a small circle of friends. You can’t beat their love and support.
Conversely, if there is a person in your life who is a negative influence and who is dragging you down in some way, don’t be afraid to get remove such a person from your life.
Smile a lot. Smiles make you miles better – and you smiling will make others smile. As Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810) put it: “Always wear a smile. The gift of life will then be yours to give.”
Laugh a lot. If you need some help.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty really is the best policy.
Be politely assertive. Say how you feel and explain what you want. Friends and colleagues can’t be mind readers.
Give lots of compliments. You will make others feel good about themselves and find that this gives you pleasure too.
Give small gifts to your friends. To give is even more pleasurable than to receive.
When your birthday or Christmas is coming, prepare a list of the presents you’d like and give it to a partner, relative or friend to ‘manage’. That way people won’t struggle to choose a gift for you and you’ll receive what you want and like.
Use your credit card as a convenient way to pay for your major expenditures on a monthly basis – not to obtain credit at an outrageous level of interest.
Don’t gamble. There’s enough uncertainty in your life without you adding more – and anyway, in the long run, you can’t win. (A little flutter on the lottery is allowed.)
Give regularly to the charities of your choice. Make at least one of those charities an organisation addressing world poverty. Regularly increase your contributions as your income rises.
Wear the most expensive after-shave (usually men!) or perfume (usually women!!) you can afford. It will make you feel good.
Whether male or female, get your hair done. This will always make you feel better about yourself.
Surround yourself with pleasant smells. Have flowers, pot-pourri or scented candles in most rooms of the house and in your office.
Every so often, spend a little time observing the night sky. As you contemplate the distances and time involved, it will put your life and your concerns into more perspective.